I commented on an article by Veronica Monet (author and sex worker rights activist) on whether the fluid ejected from a woman’s vagina is pee when squirting. Apparently, a group of scientists stated that the female ejaculatory fluid is urine, contradicting an earlier study stating that it was not pee. Veronica was sharing her personal experiences with squirting. Writing my opinion about it brought back memories of when I first saw it happening to a woman I was having sex with.

Amina:

Amina, which is not her real name, was the first woman I was with that squirted. We dated in college in the early ’90s. She was a very sensual woman. And she owned her sensuality. She was up for whatever felt good.

Her skin was so soft. We had long sessions of foreplay. It always made for a great experience between us. We had a no-strings-attached mostly sexual relationship preferring to see one another when our studies permitted.

Our relationship was intense. One minute we would be rolling on the floor laughing our asses off. The next minute we would be arguing about race, class, gender, breastfeeding, you name it. She was a Bell Hooks, Angela Davis quoting feminist who wouldn’t even allow me to open a door for her.

I was the typical guy who didn’t want to hear about any of the crap that some men inflict on women. However, the sex was so great that our differences didn’t matter. We would agree to disagree, laugh about it then resume our roll in the hay. She did get me to read a couple of chapters of one of Bell Hook’s books and I actually learned something from it.

Squirting:

It happened after we were in the bed for some time. We were engaged in some after-play when she said that she needed to pee. She went to the bathroom and did so. Something told to me that it was time to change the position.

I knew that she was always willing to try something new that hinted at a heightened sexual experience. I grabbed a stuffing showing a dilapidated chair from the adjoining dining room table. I then placed a towel on the chair. When she returned from the bathroom I pointed to the chair and then sat down.

Lubrication was never a problem for her. Her sensual nature made her naturally and constantly wet. She then slid onto me with a heartfelt loud moan. We locked arms gazing into one another’s eyes.

She slowly raised herself upon me then down as if savoring every stroke. We were both lost in that moment. It felt as if time had stopped. Slowly she increased the pace. Her moans of joy with me inside her excited me even more. We rocked back and forth while she slid up and down on me. Finally, I felt a gush of liquid on my penis.

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I looked down between us. The fluid continued to gush. It was as if a water hose was turned on between the two of us. It actually drenched the chair’s foam. I tossed the chair in the trash afterward. We were both amazed and bewildered. Neither of us knew what it was. We didn’t care either because we just had some amazing sex.

As I think about that time after learning some of the science behind squirting, the conditions were exactly right for it to have occurred. For one thing, Amina was already turned on from the roll in the hay just prior to her going to the bathroom to pee. Also, we were in a chair with her straddling me. In that position, my dick was easily able to stimulate her G-spot when she slid up and down on me. And her clitoris was stimulated by the back and forth rocking motion. I get an erection just thinking about it.

Squirting Is Not Pee:

According to the older science, when a woman is sexually stimulated, the Skene’s glands (also known by other terms) fill with fluid. Click here to read about the Skene’s gland. Then the vaginal contractions cause the fluid in the gland to squirt when she orgasms. The Skene glands can refill with fluid between squirts. But the amount of fluid differs for each woman because of a number of reasons.

One reason is that the size of the Skene glands differs from woman to woman. Another reason is that the size of the ducts leading from the Skene glands to the urethra also differs from woman to woman. Most women can squirt enough to notice. However, some don’t because the size of the ducts leading from the Skene glands to the urethra is so small that no fluid can travel through them. Conversely, a woman’s glands and ducts may be so large that she gushes. This was probably the case with Amina.

Unfortunately, many women are ashamed of squirting. Often I’ve had to coach and give a woman permission to squirt. It’s a lovely experience for her since it requires her to have a clitoral and G-spot orgasm at the same time. Additionally, it involves up to three times more foreplay before penetration begins.

Notwithstanding the latest scientific findings, I’ve never thought that the fluid released during female ejaculation was urine. It has never looked, smelled nor felt like urine. Some women are concerned that the liquid is pee. To alleviate that concern I’ll ask her to go to the bathroom to empty her bladder even before starting foreplay. When she feels like she has to pee she knows it’s not urine.

It usually takes western science time to catch up to what people already know from personal experience.

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